Our parents brought us to this world. To put it more specifically, mother introduces us to the world, while father introduces the world to us.
We grow under the warmth and the guidance of uncles and aunties. The company of siblings grooms us to be in the culture of Sharing, caring & thereby ensuring we achieve the purpose of our life.
In the journey of our life, we come across various beautiful relationships with the opposite sex which though are not blood related yet eclipses the blood related relationships.
Bhabhi devar & Jija Saali:
There is a reason why these two relationships are one of the beautiful relationships. Bhabhi is the first non-related woman of your age group who enters your life before you get a life partner of your own. This relationship is kind of an ice breaker in order to understand how to deal with an unknown woman.
That was the view point from devar. Let us understand from from the point of view of bhabhi. For her , the close proximity with her devar enables her to understand about her husband even better. She can get to know through her devar, the likes & dislikes , his taste preferences, habits. These inputs from her devar helps her understand her husband better in an informal & in a seamless manner. Such bondings also helps the girl to adjust in the new environment easily & quickly.
As Jija you will be the ice breaker for the woman, as you would be the first non-related man of her age group to that girl with whom she would be interacting on a regular basis before her marriage.
Similarly , the informal relationship between saali & jija would help saali to understand her jija better. Her inferences about him would be an invaluable input to her parents that their daughter is in safe hands.
Daughter in law (DIL) & Son in law (SIL).
For a man, the entry of a daughter in law in his life would be seen as a filler of the void created by his daughter after her marriage. For those who don’t have a daughter of their own, DIL fills the absence of a daughter in their life.
For a woman, SIL is like a son from another mother. There is a beautiful bond between the SIL & herself.
In a marriage ,there is hardly any change in a man’s life but for a woman, the life takes a 180 degree turn. She goes out of her comfort zone & she is expected to adjust & acclimatized to the new environment. The father in law understands the challenges of his daughter in law as he would be aware of the challenges that his daughter would have gone through at her in laws place. He makes it a point to ensure that she doesn’t misses her home in general & her father in particular.
Friends;
We make friends in school, college, workplace & other social circles. Friends made in work place or in social circles or even in some cases with friendships made during college can be compared with friendships during the train journey. Very often we connect with our co-passengers in the very first cord itself but invariably the life of that particular relationship lasts only till we reach our respective destinations.
However, it is observed friendship that is made during the schools stands out in this category. Friendship formed at that tender age has no strings attached to it. Be it looks, talent, economic power nothing acts as a catalyst for building the relationship, it is purely the individual who is valued. When such a relationship is held over a decade at an age when our thoughts are not influenced with materialistic pursuits, it invariably stays connected even at the advanced stage of our lives.
Spouse;
The relationship between the husband and wife is quite unique and amazing. Two strangers meet at some stage in their lives & enter into the institution called marriage. Over the years their relationship blossoms to the extent that they share everything that one would not do with any other relationship. That is the hallmark of this relationship. Marriages in India are like the pickle of the East & not like the pizza of the West. Another beauty of this relationship is that there is no shelf life, unlike any other relationship. It begins in the marriage hall & ends up in the graveyard.
Though these are beautiful relationships, not everyone gets to enjoy these relationships. Some are unlucky who are not bestowed with such blessings while some are unfortunate who do not enjoy (for whatever reasons) in spite of having such blessings in abundance.